It may be time for a face-to-face chat if your teen or another adolescent loved one is becoming more difficult in school, seems disoriented, has lost interest in usual activities, lacks focus, or seems more constrained than usual. These could be possible signs of an alcohol addiction.
The Psychologic Usual Teenage Phase in Contrast with Unusual Characteristics
Without a doubt, it takes a lot of patience to deal with the emotions and actions of any young person between the ages of 12 and 18. Your teen’s behavior and reactions can fluctuate greatly according to hormonal swings. You may have observed that, although they are smiling about a text, they are growling at you for not purchasing orange juice precisely sixty seconds later.
Even though this behavior can be unpleasant at times, many psychotherapists have opined in recent times that it is typically normal; “Due to the chemical changes occurring inside their brains, teens commonly experience increased irritability, intense sadness, and frequent frustration as they mature,” the expert explains. “A range of emotions are also felt by youths as they establish their independence. They could be delighted about their impending liberation but also feel depressed, afraid, and alone about the future. You must understand that several mood fluctuations can result from these strong feelings.
When then are behavioral changes and mood swings reason for concern? Depending on the substance and the person, there may be several indicators of teen drug and alcohol misuse. Some things you may observe with teens who engage in alcoholism are:
- A bloodshot or glassy-eyed look
- Neglecting one’s appearance or personal hygiene
- The stench of alcohol seeping into their clothing or through their pores
becoming ill more frequently - Inconsistency or a lack of focus
- Concentration issues and memory loss
- Slurred speech or trouble carrying on a discussion
- Being more contentious than normal or, on the other hand, more cooperative
- Reduced enthusiasm for learning or issues at school, such arguments, absences, or missing assignments
- A shift in social circles or a withdrawal from acquaintances
- Absence of enthusiasm for routine tasks
What Next?
If you discover any of the above signs in your teen, you should take immediate actions. Deciding the actions to take depends on the outcome of a genuine face-to-face discussion with your teen. As you discuss, make inquiries that are important and pay close attention to details.
Here are some helpful steps to create better dialogue with your teenager as you partner to end their addiction(s):
- To avoid any surprises, schedule a time when you can both enjoy some quiet time and ask that electronics be put away.
- By keeping your cool, being courteous, and maintaining objectivity, you may create a safe atmosphere where you can both feel more open to each other.
- Instead of just receiving a “yes” or “no,” ask more open-ended questions and seek out in-depth answers.
- Ask your adolescent why they drink; sometimes it’s just curiosity or a desire to fit in, but there may be other motivations as well, such stress relief or avoiding particular problems.
- Make sure your words are carefully chosen. For example, “I’m hearing that balancing school with your part-time job feels like too much, and drinking helps take your mind off things.” Reflective listening and “I” statements make your child feel heard and understood. Is that accurate?
- Explain the harmful effects of alcohol on the body, mind, and law, as well as any long-term repercussions, without passing judgment. This is especially important if there is a family history of drug or alcohol abuse.
- Demonstrate your understanding of their situation and any challenges they may have, and talk about more effective ways to resolve conflicts without drinking.
- When it comes to the rules about not drinking and what happens if your adolescent persists in drinking and doesn’t follow them, set clear, compassionate expectations and be prepared to enforce them.
More significantly, if your adolescent communicates difficulties related to a traumatic event, bullying, violence, physical or sexual abuse, mental or emotional health problems, or any other concern, intervene quickly. You need to give it your whole attention whether they mentioned it outright or indirectly.
Addiction to substances or alcohol always has an underlying reason. It’s probable that in order to understand the true causes of their conduct, your teen needs therapy—both for themselves and for your family.